Each day on a personal as well as a collective level, trying to understand what can be done and what has to be postponed to a later date, epoch… .
A. A personal level Having a clear comprehension of what is meant with some concrete or abstract words, is very important in life. One does not only learn this in a theoretical way. What is meant with the word ‘love’ for example ? The emotional ties between people often are so complicated because before we were born lots of things happened, lots of historical issues and emotional stuff that eventually and indeed lead to our existence. These kind of social, biological movements between persons and their personal and collective relations, coming from a journey between the radiation of the early days of the big bang or whatever originally happened and the evolution of atoms into cells and organisms and ourselves CONTAIN lots of individual and spiritual messages. In fact, we ourselves did already take part in the life of former generations…because the genetic information in a lot of cases seems to interact with the lessons one has to learn in life. In fact one is the result of a number of characteristics of older persons than oneself, a being put together by different characteristics. All difficult things where our ancestors did not come even with, we get on our ‘plate’ again. We confront our ancestors and others with the way we are and with the way they are and reverse. In religious terms we would call it ‘a sin through heritage’, put let us take a humanistic and spiritual pad as too understand those things. We all think we have a free will and that we can decide whatever we want to; but that is just one part of the truth. If for instance in ‘the love game’ we obey the general rule number one : ‘not having a sexual relationship with more than one person’, we can avoid a number of emotional problems : jealousy, complicated triangles, not being able to integrate sensual feelings for other people in one’s own relationship. There is a difference between biology and chemical things and the responsibility that comes with taking up an important task in the life of someone else, one’s family, another family and so on. The difference between wanting something and the way it is, is a strange one : we want to erase poverty, war, famine…but they still are there; we don’t want emotional trouble with people…but often we do have it. In both cases we’ll have to make an objective study of ‘how come this or that goal is not completely achieved yet, can it be achieved’ ? Where does it always go wrong, how can we fix it ? Like in the beginning of cosmos, things come into life when too much pressure tends to explode and take a space that is smaller or equal to zero…zero, something without content has no meaning, it cannot exist…and in the end it’s like some situations in our collective or personal lives : things are tried in a different way to give things and persons a change to a new, more logical approach of former situations. A few generations earlier, there often was only one person, generally speaking, bringing money into the household. There was less pressure on buying things, entertainment was more simple, no violent computer games, less stress on work… . We have partly lost our roots with a life more in harmony with nature and we are thought that life is a kind of mechanical things that happens until you are dead, and that’s it then. But those who aren’t there any more still make part of out world because they are related to us…like the roots and branches of a three. Our ‘roots’ in fact are our collective, partly invisible past; sometimes they can hold back our evolution. We ourselves have to rule on top of our pyramid through the person we have become in each stage of our life. We do not always succeed in this each day or each moment of the day…but we can learn how to avoid being ruled by the negative part of our emotions because those can take away our happiness for too long periods. Living once life in quiet and peace, who would not want that ? Knowing what can and cannot be one is important in this. One has to work on an insight in this; understanding once relationships. Each day and night. Feeling connected but knowing when to take distance. A lot of negative emotions and misunderstandings just come from the ‘have’ or ‘wanting to much’ stuff in our lives… a lot of people judge their relationships on these kind of things. Sometimes people do have to separate, but in a lot of case they really should stay together because life has given them very good cards to understand their reasons for living…no matter if the cards are difficult or not.
People in love, married or in what existing form of living together often want to push one another out of a relationship by complaining without real reasons and trying to make the partner not a ease at all. They want the other to be ‘perfect’…and that of course is a romantic view in most of the cases. A lot of people had to share the heights and down periodes of people in order to understand that there is grieve one is not able yet to talk about. Sometimes tears can hold people healthy, silent inside as well. To see ‘clear’ in these kind of things is to reach a stadium where thorugh experience one understands one’s own life in connection and coordination with that of others and not only through the written and spoken word but through one’s own inner equilibrium. The experience of living your own inner peace, your own original you …that’s who you really are. That image of who you are, you are trying to project it on the outside world who maybe is not as ready for it as you are, no matter if it’s your neighbour, your son or whoever…often one is too busy analysing the feelings and thoughts, images of the day or of the past to try to look for explanations and connections, that not only depend on your own experiences and future roads in life.
One really has to deal with things that were a heritage from instincts. Like jealousy for example. Jealousy looks for fuel everywhere. Memories of the past, fantasy about other lovers etc… . The real meaning of being faithful is that the connection in fact is very good after discovering in no limited length of time that lots of things fit between people.
It’s all about understanding each other’ s languages.